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My nephew Fred is totally mad about tractors. At two years of age he would happily flick through ”The Farmers Journal” newspaper, pointing at pictures of farm machinery and saying “chack-ker”, in the same blissfully happy tone that Homer Simpson talks of donuts or beer!
Last year one of my sisters got married and Fred, as her godson, was to be page-boy for the wedding. At that stage Fred was three and half years old and still mad about tractors. He was then, and still is, a very strong-willed little fella and it is virtually impossible to make him do something he doesn’t want to. So his mother was a bit worried that the whole page-boy thing could go pear-shaped on the wedding day.
At the fitting for his page-boy suit, Fred reluctantly tried on the trousers. But he swiftly called a halt when they produced a waistcoat and jacket too. Like many men, Fred is no fan of fancy clothes. He just looked at the suit and cried ”NO! NO! NO!”. Fred’s mother knew if they insisted on him trying on the suit at that time then he would just turn against it completely. So she took the suit and said that Fred would wear it for the wedding, though she had no idea how she was going to get him to do that.
A couple of days before the wedding, and after a lot of thought, my brother came up with the idea of printing out the logo of Fred’s favourite tractor, a New Holland, and sticking it inside the jacket of Fred’s suit. We did that and decided to tell Fred he would be wearing a New Holland suit for the wedding.
On the morning of the wedding, the “New Holland Suit” was produced and poor Fred nearly collapsed with the excitement. His own New Holland suit! He couldn’t wait to try it on and then he pranced around happily for all of us, showing off the whole ensemble, waistcoat, cravat, jacket and logo included. At the church he proudly flashed the New Holland logo for all to see and had no problem walking down the aisle because he knew all these people were admiring his suit!
When the wedding was finally over, Fred cried when it was time to take off his special suit. It was only the promise of getting back into his tractor t-shirt that finally won him over.
So there you have it. To get an unhappy 3 year old to do what you want, you need to use yours, or somebody else’s imagination and think outside the box.

brilliant idea and funny post – three and half year olds are to be contended with successfully with some forethought
Thats for sure!
Brilliant! I’m off to redo my husband’s suit into a John Deere suit.
Haha! love it!! I wonder have tractor manufacturers ever thought of doing dress suits?!
Fantastic! What a clever idea.
You know what its like, you have to be clever when dealing with kids!!
Smooth/wise parenting on your brother’s part. Love it!
And he’s not even a parent – he’s Fred’s uncle! I think he is learning parenting skills without even trying because he is surrounded by so many nieces and nephews.
That’s a good selling point when he meets the right woman.
This is just genius.
We were lucky it worked I think!!
Nicely done!
I had a thing about bulldozers at that age. I think when you’re 3 or 4, you naturally admire things like bulldozers and tyrannosauruses which have the kind of power you can only dream of.
And at that age, you are sure that power will be your when you grow up!
Aw that’s very sweet.
Genius idea! The latest obsession in our house is with superheroes – but I might just copy this approach when we’re trying to get Little Man into a suit for my brother’s wedding in February.
I recommend it. I never saw such a turnaround in attitude as he had over that suit.
That is priceless! My nephew is the same, he’s 2 & a half and is obsessed!
One to note for your wedding!!
What a lovely idea! I can relate, we have battles all the time about appropriate dress for both of our kids. It reminds me of the book cars and “Trucks and things that Go” which was a great hit with both of them.Great post!
Thank you Clay.
Genius! I’m now wondering how I can apply this technique to getting my kids to clean their rooms!
If you work that one out will you share it please. I need to use it on my kids too!!
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